Day 15 - Pet Peeve: heartbreak without a cure


Unhelpful tips and coping techniques  for the heartbroken.  
Cry, cry, cry
Feel the despair
Ruminate
Listen to audiobooks
Read
Watch movies
Visit friends
Talk to bff every night before bed
Journal
Drink water
Exercise
Eat at home more often
Take time off work
Do NOT initiate contact

 The first three fucking suck for obvious reasons, but unfortunately, if you're heartbroken that means you cared and there's no avoiding the pain. Believe me, I tried to figure out a way which is why I did all the rest on the list except the last one. Smh. 
I know myself and my feelings fairly well, so I had never planned to take any dude seriously until we were in it for years. I was duped. Anyway, one of my therapists gave me a pamphlet on how to cope with grief and loss. I tried everything. I bought a journal specific for this epoch and it's damn near full. I started the couch to 5k program on the treadmill. I stopped taking my sleeping pills because my subconscious was being insane. I started listening to audio books or leaving the tv on while I fell asleep to have something to concentrate on besides my own thoughts. Nothing keeps the sadness fully at bay. I was hoping these techniques would make things go by quicker and a bit easier, but no. Hopefully this helps someone have a smoother transition back to singledom. Or at the very least remind you that you're not alone. Everyone's heartbreak causes the same issues and questions.

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