Day 19 - Pet Peeve: I have terrible decision making skills

This is my life now. 
I met up with this guy to get some appetizers today. I don't do the under-one-to-get-over-the-last thing. However, I will try to occupy my damn time. The biggest issue: I've known from the beginning that I don't like him. He has rigid gender role ideas and a condescending attitude. At least I have something to talk about if that's any consolation. Nope, it's not. Anyway, we went to eat and he had the same attitude I remembered from our last shared meal, a month and a half ago. The one thing that threw me all the way off was that he doesn't believe in the single until you're married idea. Only man I've ever seen look totally flummoxed at the thought. He was so far in the negative of cool points with me that that one point didn't change his standing,though. Aside: I can't think of a nickname for him. He probably won't be around very long so I'm not too pressed about it. Lol.
He walked me to my car and argued about how to get there the whole way. As if he was IN the car when I parked it. Smh. When we got there and hugged, he leaned in toward me in a weird way. I was like wtf is going on. Thankfully he only kissed my cheek.
I'm not using him for food, I promise. I tell him each time, I'll pay for myself to avoid confusion. In the end, he waves me off. The first meal we had together only happened after I told him I prefer to pay for myself to prevent anyone thinking I owe them sex or anything sex related. At that point he jumped at the chance to go to dinner. That was our "start." Sounds lovely, huh? Since that first meal, he texts me "good morning" every morning, "what you doing?" most afternoons, and nothing in between. Some days I don't respond because what's the point? Does that warrant kissing?!
What happened to the vibes and signs that people are always talking about? If you pick up on my vibes, then you already know I'm not interested in kissing.

 What the hell am I doing? How did I get here? I'm flying off the handle. I just need to get my brain back on kilter. Off the Narcoleptic or anyone else for that matter. Nothing like someone I'm not in danger of liking to balance things out, right? Idk, idk! Somebody help me make decisions.

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